sh3ll3y
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Reged: 10/09/2008
Posts: 3
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im 18 and already my bf is driving me crazy we have been in a relationship for 3 years now, his nearly 20 and acts like a little kid!! when his at work, on his break, he will go and sit next to the women and make sure i can hear them or sometimes he will even speak with them wile im on the phone, he will have a good laugh with them but when i meet him after work his all moody with me!! i have told him before that if he didn't feel like he loved me anymore that it wouldnt be fair for me to hold him back!! we have talked about this so many times but he keeps sayin that he only wants to be with me but he rubs it in my face so much.. i also have a weekend job at the local shop and he always asks me, after work, if i spoke to anyone or if i have seen anyone and just stupid little questions. when we go around town he looks at other girls n checks them out right infront of me but he says he wasnt looking at anyone! the best of it is, when he rings me up he will ask me to speak to my mom or dad just so that he knows i am at home and not anywhere else he also checks my phone everyday!! im not even allowed boy mates!!!
i reali do love him but i hate his paranoia and im sure if he stops the paranoia we would get along just fine i have tried speaking to him on several occasions but it goes in 1 ear and out the other i have even threatened to end the relation ship but i love him too much!! has anyone got any advice on what i can say or do to stop the paranoia and bring the person i fell inlove with back to me??
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MA40
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Reged: 23/11/2008
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HI! YOUR BOYFRIEND IS LIKE A YOUNGER VERSION OF MY PARTNER. FLIRTS WITH THE FEMALE COLLEAGUES RUBS IT IN MY FACE SAYING HE'LL FIND SOMEONE BETTER THAN ME AND GENERALLY RUNS ME DOWN,BUT DOESNT LIKE IT IF ANOTHER MALE LOOKS TOWARDS ME BUT WILL FLIRT OR EYE UP SOME OTHER FEMALE INFRONT OF ME!BUT STUPIDLY EVEN THOUGH THEY DO THIS YOU STILL LOVE THEM,I THINK ITS THEIR INSECURITY ABOUT FEELING WANTED AND THE MORE ITS DONE THE MORE POWER IT FEEDS THEM.IT BECOMES A POWER TOOL FOR THEM, BECOMING MORE POSSESSIVE IN WHAT THEY THINK YOU SHOULD DO AND NOT DO, EVEN THOUGH ITS OK FOR THEM TO GO OUT AND DO THINGS THEY WANT TO DO (IF THAT MAKES ANY SENSE?)JUST BE CAREFUL YOUR BOYFRIEND DOESNT UNWITTINGLY BECOME A CONTROL FREAK,REMIND HIM THAT EVEN THOUGH YOU STILL LOVE HIM,YOU FEEL TRAPPED,IN THAT HE SEEMS TO BE CONTROLLING WHAT YOUR ALLOWED AND NOT ALLOWED TO DO,THAT YOU NEED SOME BREATHING SPACE AND A CHANCE TO AIR YOUR VIEWS ACROSS.TELL HIM IF HE REALLY LOVES YOU THAT HE SHOULD NOT SUFFOCATE YOU SO MUCH AND EVEN THOUGH HE WON'T LIKE IT - TELL HIM TO START GROWING UP,OTHERWISE HE'LL ONLY PUSH YOU FURTHER AWAY FROM HIM.I HOPE THIS MAKES SENSE TO YOU, I DO UNDERSTAND YOUR FRUSTRATIONS, YOU TELL THEM YOU LOVE THEM AND YOU SEEM TO GET PUSHED TO ONE SIDE.HOPE YOU DIDN'T MIND ME WITTERING ON !!GOOD LUCK WITH LITTLE KID!
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Donna_Bramhall
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Reged: 03/11/2008
Posts: 12
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Hey guys i know what u mean my daughters dad use 2 b like that with me but i also found out he was married the whole time we was in a relationship which was 7 years but i didn't know as he works in the raf but the best thing u can do is get rid if hes being that bad as u don't know weather hes cheated or not and it aint the sort of relationship 2 have cause it will resolve to violence as my best m8 was in the same sort of relationship as u with him checkin her phone even checkin her emails cause he got all her passwords and he ended up gettin violent so please get out of the relationship b4 its to late as i wouldn't like to see another get hurt by violence cause a bloke doesn't know how to love some1 anymore 
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