ALmost_Twenty
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Reged: 13/07/2008
Posts: 13
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Hey everyone im back again. Just didnt really know what to do so thought it was a gud idea to write my problem on here and maybe get help that way. I was on here before bout problems i was having with my fella except he aint my fella anymore. he split up with me last thursday and since then i havent really known what to do with myself. i was in a relationship with him for the past 3 years and 4 months and then out of the blue since he started hanging out with all his mates he decided he didnt want a relationship with me. he has started hanging out with his ex too, im not worried bout her as he sed he doesnt fancy her and shes minging and got too much baggage so im not worried bout that. my problem is this...on the saturday after we broke up i went round his and we were hanging out watching tv and he lay on the sofa with me snuggling upto me and started nibbling on my ear and stuff and playing. after his parents came in and saw us hugging they asked if it was back on which he sed it werent but then i went upstairs after him n he was playing on his game and he sed he missed "it". i asked him what he meant and he sed he missed sex and me...i dont totally understand what that meant but one thing led to another and we were kissing and eventually slept together..after that he was alright with me and i was at his house, went home briefly and when i came bk he was a bit weird. i asked if he was still going to sleep with me and he sed he was too tired but then when i was going to sleep in his bed and he was on the sofa downstairs he text me saying he was horny and all this other naughty stuff...i went downstairs and we had sex agen then we went upstairs where he hugged me and started saying this couldnt be a regular thing and i gotta move on..blah blah blah. The past couple of days since then he keeps changing his mind, one day he says he wants to sleep with me again and then anova he says we just mates and he dont want to use me...he still loves me and i still love him but i dont want it to be like this. I dont want it to be that we all lovey dovey and sleep together and then the next couple of days after he completely ignores me and is funny. please can sum1 help me. im trying sooo hard to move on and forget him but its hard. he was my first and i was his. i havent even looked at anova guy since i been with him. PLEASE HELP ASAP!!!
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jill
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Reged: 07/11/2008
Posts: 2
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Bloomin Heck, how many times do you want to be used for sex!!! Why on earth do you want to be with somebody who is only civil to you when he wants sex and once he has it he doesn't want to know. Please, please please gain some respect and tell this guy to get on his bike! You sound very young and believe me, he may be your first but he won't be your last but until you move on and leave this guy behind who obviously only wants one thing, then you will never find that someone special. Stop letting him use you, he won't change as long as you are putting out!
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Donna_Bramhall
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Reged: 03/11/2008
Posts: 12
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I cant believe your letting this guy do that i was with my ex 4 7 years and he has been trying to split me and my new partner up and telling me the same was what your ex said.
But hunni you've gotta be stronger then that tell him that he either wants you back or he don't if he says that he doesn't then u let go delete his number and then move on otherwise your letting him hurt you even more find some1 better.
Prove to him that he hasn't got you under the thumb because at the moment your showing him that he can get what he wants and you shudn't let him.
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MsChief66
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Reged: 21/10/2008
Posts: 11
Loc: West Lancashire, UK
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Ditto.... As long as you let it happen, he will come bouncing back everytime for more. Treat yourself with respect as you are worth more than this. Tell him that he has to decide, as you refuse point blank to be dangled on a string for him to pick you and discard you whenever it suits him. I know you are hurting and no doubt heartbroken, however are you willing to subject yourself to his games forever?
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'To err is human.... To Forgive is divine'
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