DaisyDuke
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Reged: 11/12/2007
Posts: 13
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Is it unfair to expect my hubby to stay at home now we had a baby? I had a girl 5 months ago, and just before xmas my husband went out with mates from work till late. i was a bit P**ed but kept calm with him. I didnt wanna be a scrooge. Then 2 weeks ago he went out for another late one and i gave him a piece of my mind, which turned into a row. I dont want to stop him having a life but i get annoyed coz i cant go out so easily and he seems to take it for granted. am i asking for too much??? 
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Liz
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Reged: 21/12/2006
Posts: 56
Loc: London
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Hello,
are you saying that in 5 months your hubby has gone out twice?
How many times a week did you used to go out with him? or how many times a week did he used to go out on his own before the baby was born? Twice in 5 months doesn't sound a lot to me.
But more importantly, when are you going to go out with him? It's important that you need some time away from the baby and with your hubby as well as your friends.
I've got two kids, but always make time to go out a couple of times a month with the girls as well as a night out with my husband.
What do you think?
Liz x
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Tanya1982
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Reged: 30/10/2007
Posts: 21
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i agree with Liz, twice in 5 months is nothing. It seems to me the problem here is not him going out but that you HAVENT been out. Now your babys 5 months, you could try leaving her with a babysitter you trust and going out either on your own or even with your husbnad - it would prob do you both the world of good!
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wendy
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Reged: 14/04/2008
Posts: 3
Loc: ashton under lyne
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hi am new to this page but i no wot ur going thro am45 7 kids all left ome bar 3 my 18 year old and 8 7 yr old when i meet my boyfriend now husband 2 yearsago we would go out saturday nights but the past year we hv not been out my 2 children goes to there dads wk ends so we hv no excues to stay in but he doesnt want to. where as u and ur husband go out on your own we made a prom that we go out together r not at all which works cus of r past marrige any way wot am trying to say is no ur not being unfair make it clear u go out together r not at all am sure u can get some one to look after ur little for a hour r so r stay in and hv a drink
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ALmost_Twenty
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Reged: 13/07/2008
Posts: 13
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I dont think u r being unfair to ur hubby, i dont have kids yet and me and my boyfriend arent even married yet but it is similar to how i felt a while ago. My boyfriend kept going out with his mates and never bothered to come back the time i said he would be but then whenever i complained he would just do it more and we would row, then the one time i actually felt like going out with my friend he got all insecure and grumpy about it, in the end we had more time together e.g.watching films, cuddling, cinema, meals and it has made us closer as we have spoken to each other and now even though we still do our own thing we also make sure we spend plenty of time together. Hope that helps.x
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tjmum
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Reged: 29/08/2008
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No I don't think you're being unfair. I have two children, one 15 months and the other nearly three. The only time my husband has been out since they were born is when he had to work away. At this age we wouldn't dream of leaving them with someone else, especially when we don't have family to look out for them. Just look at Madeline McCann - that is what happens when parents take their own pleasure over the welfare of their children. I don't think you're wrong at all. Men do find it easier to walk away and switch off from their families. Leaving behind the nights out might be hard but it's only for a few years. And who would you want your child asking for when it wakes up in the night? You or the babysitter?
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Aysh
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Reged: 14/09/2008
Posts: 1
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I can understand how your feeling it's hard when you have just had a baby. i ahve 2 girls and get it's too much at times but my hubby has always supported me it is usually me telling him to go out and have a rest! you'll have to speak to him about it otherwise you will get depressed and that will cause more problems.
take care
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bethan
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Reged: 16/10/2008
Posts: 5
Loc: Cardiff, Wales
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I totally understand how you feel, but I will say that I think its really important for you both to have space from home, each other and even your baby. Everybody needs to have a little time to be themselves, and not just someones partner or parent. Twice in 5months isnt alot, and may be just the break he needs. I think the important thing to remember is that YOU need a break too - do u think maybe it would work if you let him have his time, but make sure u get ur time too?
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